“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ~ Oscar Wilde
Have you ever found yourself experiencing an emotion, which you have experienced many times before? Of course you have. And if you have not, congratulations; we suppose you are now an enlightened Zen Master. That is good. Please send us an email and share your experiences:-)!
The thing is, most people have an emotional address. The furniture in their emotional house consists of the same pieces of furniture, which they visit daily. They spend their lives living in a small set of emotions.
Now one very relevant question to ask yourself is: do the emotions I regularly spend time in serve me? Is my house of emotions helping me achieve my long-term goals and dreams?
Because your emotional address is not just a place where you live at the moment. It is also the direction in which you are travelling. It is the number of the highway you are driving on, so where is it headed? Towards true North, or South?
Generally speaking most people think the same thoughts again and again, and these same thoughts result in the same emotions, and these same emotions result in the same actions.
This does not have to be a bad thing. If you truly enjoy playing the guitar, do so every day, and while listening for the progress you make, you will, in due time, achieve a fine level of mastery with your instrument.
But it can also be a dangerous trap. You can live a life, which is not your real life. Some people live their entire lives like that. Thinking about the same things again and again during the day (and there is NO requirement that the thoughts have anything to do with what they experience during the particular day!), visiting the same couple of emotional states again and again, basing their decisions and actions in these states … and then ending up with creating little or no difference or adventure in their lives.
Now, it probably wasn’t Albert Einstein who first said “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” But whomever it was, was on to something. If someone bases all their decisions and actions on a very limited set of emotions the results are going to be pretty much the same.
With this in mind, may we invite you to start a week where you keep track of which emotional states you enter habitually. Every hour on the hour ask yourself a question: where am I at, emotionally, at this point in time? When you have answered the question a number of times you may start to recognize your emotional address. Then it is time to ask yourself: do these emotions help me move in the direction I want to go? Do these emotions help me create and live the life I want to have and experience?
If your answer is less than satisfactory, then it may be time to ask yourself what emotions you would like to furnish your emotional home with. And what you can do to make them your new emotional address.
Wishing you a wonderful week and sending you oceans of love!
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Thomas and Lidija
Lidija Markovic Rosati– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code), NLP Coach
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