Guilty Living vs. Free Living

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“I was always fraught with guilt, and it’s such a waste of an emotion. It keeps you out of the moment of being where you are.” – Kyra Sedgwick

Dear Friends,

Have you ever felt guilt? What a silly question! Of course you have! We all have, (except the Ted Bundies amongst us!)! It is a natural human response.

But hold on, what does it even mean? To feel guilt … what exactly is that guilt someone feels? It is certainly not a thing, it’s not something you can weigh or inspect under a magnifying glass or listen to. Yet you are fully capable of feeling “it”. You, as a human being, are capable of feeling guilty. It is more like a verb or an adverb than a noun. It is something you do, an activity you engage in. So let us explore this activity a bit further.

Think about it this way. There is a good natural response. Two children, a boy and a girl, are playing. The boy hits the girl. She starts crying. Empathy kicks in. The boy feels the girl’s feelings. Is sorry that he hurt her. Wants to comfort her. Perhaps wants to regain her trust and fellowship. This sort of guilt, born out of empathy and emanating from the person himself, is a good and healthy, a natural and self-correcting response. Motivating people to unwrong the wrongs, to avoid them in the future, to mend relationships. This is good guilt; this is something you want to be able to feel even though it may not always be pleasant. This is something that is extremely valuable for a human being.

But then there is the perverted guilt. Often induced by people who like to control people. People peddling the idea that if you don’t sacrifice yourself for something other than yourself, then you are evil, bad, egoistic. People who cannot deal with their own feelings of guilt, so they make someone else feel them. People who are unhappy with their situation and want to manipulate you into submission and servitude. And they are masters of guilting, they have often spent years and decades perfecting their skills. The right words, the right tone of voice, the right glare of disapproval. And sometimes it doesn’t even help that you realise what they are doing – you still react by producing feelings of guilt.

“Oh, just go out and enjoy yourself, don’t worry about me, laying here, sick and alone with noone to take care of me.”

And this is perhaps one of the most important things to realise about guilt. The popular definition of the word claims that guilt is an emotion you get when you have violated a moral standard you subscribe to. But indeed: the standard may be a standard someone else subscribes to.

To separate your own feelings from those of others is dealt with more in depth in NLP, but if you lack such a background a very good start is to simply ask a question: “are these my feelings for this situation, or did someone else “give” them to me?”

And moreover – “violated a moral standard you subscribe to” – makes it sound as if feelings were a rational process. Sort of: “Oh yes, according to the standards which I subscribe to, today I made three transgressions. Now it is time for me to feel guilt guilt with intensity five for ten minutes” Of course it is not like that.

If you doubt this, just start answering the question truthfully: which standards have you violated recently without feeling a single microgram of guilt. 🙂

Now the danger with guilt is that it becomes an unproductive festering feeling poisoning your life and draining your vitality. On a smaller or a larger scale. Then what do you do?

You spend some time catching up with yourself. You sit down and do nothing else, but invite the feelings into your presence. Chances are this is exactly what you have been avoiding doing. Instead of welcoming these messages from your soul you have pushed them away, perhaps tried to intellectualise about them. And this is not so strange. Important messages are not necessarily pleasant, especially if you don’t want to listen to them. But now you do. Now you listen to your feelings.

Perhaps they will urge you to take action, perhaps they will nudge you to ask forgiveness, perhaps they just want to express themselves through you, perhaps they want you to let the feeling of repentance flow. Whatever they want, and whatever they are, welcome them and do your best to understand yourself, to understand your soul, your heart, your conscience. And also: explain to your conscience, the consequences of the guilt. Sometimes parts of our souls get so wrapped up in doing their thing that they loose track of the larger picture.

This is of course not a 3-step process with a guaranteed outcome. No one can predict the outcome of honest dialogue, even with oneself. And a process like redemption is not predictable. But too often we treat ourselves harshly, just brushing ourselves aside. But actually taking the time to listen to your soul’s intentions, to feel the concerns of your heart, and to explain to yourself the consequences of your reactions, is the reestablishment of that deeper and healing connection with yourself.

With this in mind, may we invite you to start a week with just observing and gauging the situations you find yourself in during the week, where you would normally feel guilty, and see how you can re-frame them, and use/see them differently, by doing the following: allow the sensation of guilt to happen, and when it does, acknowledge it and breathe into it, whilst listening to the real message beyond the labelled sensation.

Wishing you a wonderful week and sending you oceans of love,

Your walking on the edge trainers,

Thomas and Lidija

 

Lidija Markovic– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code), NLP Coach

Thomas Björge– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code), NLP Coach

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Diagnosis Kafka

“Once you label me you negate me.” ~ Sören Kierkegaard

girlmaskpainpostit-8d4bcd82efe98a25c0112896fa84915b_hDear Friends,

Have you ever noticed how people, and maybe even yourself, need to label stuff?

And did you also notice a huge relief when you got the label, diagnosis, opinion, a second opinion even…? That feeling of elation, albeit for a short time, when the label is given… It is a curious thing our need to label stuff, and I couldn’t help but wonder why the need to label? Why do we crave it so much, and what need or needs do we satisfy by labeling stuff, by giving it a diagnosis if you like?!

And isn’t it a great feeling when you chat with someone and you both arrive at the same labeling. A feeling of connection – that common labeling can only happen when you share a worldview.

This need to label, very likely satisfies several needs. A deep bound need to categorize reality in order to effectively handle it. Evolution is about survival. Survival is about predicting and understanding what is going on. Understanding is about labeling.

Once you have labeled a phenomena you know how to deal with it. A label presupposes that you recognize the phenomena, it is the same as some other phenomena.

Yet, there is a huge drawback. Once you have labeled phenomena, you already think you know what you are dealing with. You essentially sacrifice your ability to discover new things about what you have labeled. Perception isn’t so much a matter of taking things in, as it is about projecting things out. The brain projects its expectations onto the world around it, and matches these expectations with the incoming stimuli.

And this is one of the dangers of which labeling is just the symptom. Some people get stuck so far inside the label making factories of the brain that no incoming stimuli ever reach them. At least nothing which would cause them to update their understanding of reality. Political, religious, and ideological fanatics, with readymade interpretations of whatever happens, come to mind.

Even more interesting are labels when applied to people. Because if you apply a label to yourself, you will not only interpret yourself in the terms of the label, but your actions may also be affected by it. And worse: this may even happen if you don’t agree with the label.

This may be the reason why Tao Te Ching starts with drawing up the distinction between what is spoken about and what is said. The things that can be said are not the things themselves. The road that can be described is not the road travelled. Our description of the world is not the world.

The same sentiment was repeated much later by the German philosopher Immanuel Kant. The thing-in-itself is not the same as the thing-for-me. And later still in the tenets of NLP: the map is not the territory.

And the map may even limit one’s exploration of the territory. If Christopher Columbus had believed the world was flat, he would have avoided sailing towards the edge!

So with this in mind, may we invite you to start this week by exploring what certain labels, names, mean to you? How appropriate are they for your personal experience? Are they adding fragrance and richness to your life, or are they being given and accepted by default? Do they help you sail to the edge and beyond, or do they keep you running round in circles? Do they give you extra wind in your wings?

It would be interesting to hear what you experience in your label exploration journey :-)!

And remember, we are here for you!

Wishing you a wonderful week and sending you oceans of love,

Your label-free and free-flowing trainers,

Thomas and Lidija

 

Lidija Markovic– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code)

Thomas Björge– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code), NLP Coach

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Uši Nisu Samo Za Naušnice

„Umetnost razgovora je umetnost slušanja isto koliko i umetnost shvatanja.” ~ William Hazlitt

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Da li ste nekada pričali sa nekim i imali utisak da oni zapravo ne čuju ono što govorite? Oni vas slušaju, istina, ali da li vas čuju? Da li su tu? Prisutni?

Pričate sa nekim, i oni odgovaraju na nešto što definitivno niste rekli. Očigledno nisu čuli šta ste zapravo rekli. Oni odgovaraju na nešto što misle da ste rekli, ili na nešto što su mislili da ćete reći – pripremajući odgovor čak pre nego što ste završili sa svojom pričom.

Ili jednostavno, nisu uopšte slušali; samo su se pravili da učestvuju u dijalogu, dok su u stvari bili zauzeti jednosmernom komunikacijom; držanjem propovedi, reklamiranjem ili propagandnim govorom o temi, ili jednostavno pričanjem o sebi, nespretno pokušavajući da to prikriju „parafrazirajući“ nešto što niste rekli, i nastavljajući sa „hajde da još malo pričamo o meni“ formom.

Ovaj propust jedne strane da čuje šta druga strana govori se očigledno dešava u mnogim različitim situacijama – od poslovnih sastanaka, razgovora između doktora i pacijenta, terapeutskih i prijateljskih razgovora, ljubavnih šaputanja. I svuda je štetan. Mnogi ljudi nisu ni svesni da ovo rade. Za mnoge, ovo je deo standardizovanog ponašanja.

Ponekada, ono što se dešava je da zapravo postoji  previše unutrašnjeg dijaloga koji ometa razgovor. Unutrašnji dijalog može ponekad da izgubi sopstvenu svrhovitost. U nameri da pripremi dobar odgovor, unutrašnji glas može postati toliko glasan da ne čujete ono što se izgovara izvan vas, već samo čekate manje ili više prikladnu pauzu u nizu zvukova koje silaze sa usana druge osobe – da biste ubacili šta god je vaš unutrašnji dijalog iznedrio. Ako je ovo nešto što radite, onda ne učestvujete u razgovoru… ni sa kim sem do sa samim sobom.

Lek je višestruk. U poslovnom kontekstu postoje jednostavne tehnike prikupljanja informacija koje mogu da unaprede komunikaciju od nespecifične nejasnoće do visokog kvaliteta; to je tip veština koji se često uči prvog dana pravog NLP treninga. Ali u domenu istinski dubokog duhovnog razgovora, često se kreće sa dubljom promenom stava, sa buđenjem namere da zaista čujemo drugu stranu.

Postoji divna izreka u engleskom jeziku – „Srce sa ušima“. A to je nešto što nam je svima potrebno s vremena na vreme. Neko ko zaista čuje ono što kažemo. Neko ko sluša sa razumevanjem. Bez tumačenja. Bez osuđivanja. Samo sluša i shvata. Svako može da kultiviše ove veštine – jednostavno se svodi na stvaranje namere.

Pada mi na pamet stara priča o majci Terezi. Novinar ju je pitao šta je govorila Bogu kada se molila. Odgovorila je: „Ja ne govorim, ja slušam.“ Novinar je pitao: „A šta Bog kaže kada slušate?“ Majka Tereza mu je rekla: „On takođe sluša.“

Imajući ovo u vidu, pozivamo vas da razmotrite sledeće. Donesite odluku da, u razgovorima sa ljudima ove nedelje, zaista pružite deo najvrednijeg poklona koji postoji: vašu kompletnu pažnju. Podjednako da slušate i, da shvatite sagovornika.

Od srca vam šaljemo okeane ljubavi,

Vaš pažljivi i pretvoreni-u-uvo treneri,

Lidija & Thomas

P.S. Pozivamo vas da pogledate našu Momentum NLP Serbia Facebook grupu i našu Momentum Strategies Coaching Facebook stranicu i pridružite nam se sa komentarima, iskustvima, idejama i svim drugim stvarima vezanim za NLP i lični razvoj!!! Mi smo tu za vas!

Lidija Markovic Rosati, NLP Trener (Certified by Dr. John Grinder, Carmen Bostic St. Clair and Michael Carroll), Holistic NLP Trener, Hipnoterapeut, Master Neurostrateg, TimeLine terapeut. Osnivač Holistic NLP centra u Nišu. Živi i radi na relaciji Velika Britanija – Srbija.

Thomas Bjorge, NLP Trener (Certified by Dr. John Grinder, Carmen Bostic St. Clair and Michael Carroll), NLP Coach. Zivi i radi na relaciji Svedske, Norveske i Velike Britanije

www.momentum-strategies.com

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Ears Are Not Just for Earrings

“The art of conversation is the art of hearing as well as of being heard.”  William Hazlitt

listen Dear Friends,

Have you ever spoken with a person and had a feeling that they are not really hearing that what you are saying. They are listening, all right, but are they hearing you? Are they there? Present?

You talk with someone, and they reply to something that is definitely not what you said. Obviously they have not heard what you actually said. They are responding to what they thought you said, or what they thought you were going to say – starting to prepare the response even before you were finished speaking.

Or perhaps they were simply not paying any attention whatsoever; only feigning taking part in a dialogue, while really busy engaging in one way communication; preaching, delivering a sales pitch or a propaganda speech on the topic, or simply talking about themselves, while clumsily attempting to hide it by “paraphrasing” what you didn’t say, and continuing with a “let’s talk a little bit more about me” spiel :-).

This failure of one party to hear what the other is saying obviously happens in a lot of different situations. Ranging from the business meeting, the doctor patient talk, the therapeutic talk, the bedside chat, the talk between friends, the talk between lovers. And everywhere it is detrimental. A lot of people don’t even realise they are doing this. For many, this is a part of default behaviour.

Sometimes what is going on is too much internal dialogue interfering with the conversation. Internal dialogue can sometimes defeat its own purpose. In its attempt to prepare a good answer, it can get so loud in doing so that you don’t hear what is being said on the outside, you just wait for a more or less appropriate pause in the stream of noises which escape the other person’s mouth so that you can interject with whatever your internal dialogue has come up with. If this is what you are doing, you are not engaging in a dialogue … with anyone but yourself.

The antidote is manifold. In the business context there are simple information gathering tools that can elevate communication from unspecified unclarity to high quality; these are the sort often taught on the first day in a proper NLP training. But in the realms of the soul to soul conversation it often starts with a deeper attitude shift, with the awakening of the intention to really hear the other party.

There is a nice expression. “A heart with ears”. And that is something we all need once in a while. Someone who really hears what we are saying. Someone who listens with understanding. Without interpreting. Without judging. Just listens and understands, or listens with the deep intent to understand. Anyone can cultivate this skill. It simply boils down to having the intent.

There is an old story about mother Theresa that comes to mind. A journalist asked her what she said to God when she prayed. Her answer: “I don’t speak, I listen.” The journalist asked: “And what does God say, when you listen?” Mother Theresa answered: “He also listens.”

With this in mind, may we invite you to consider the following.  While conversing with people this week, make a decision to really give them a part of the most valuable resource there is: your full attention. To both listen and hear.

From the heart, sending you oceans of love,

Your two listening train-ears

Lidija and Thomas

 

Lidija Markovic– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code)

Thomas Björge– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code), NLP Coach

 

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Nedeljna Hrana za Razmisljanje: Kopirati i preslikavati ili stvarati i napredovati?

‘Budite ono što jeste. Svet obožava originale.’ ~ Ingrid Bergman

chickenoriginalDragi prijatelji,

Da li vam se ikada desilo da ste se, iz navike praktikovanja standardizovanog  ponašanja, opredelili da kopirate i preslikate, umesto da kreirate i napredujete?

Skorašnja konsultacija sa klijentom nas je podstakla na razmišljanje o ovom “standardizovanom” ponašanju. Ponašanju gde nismo ohrabreni da stvorimo i izmislimo, već smo pozvani da kopiramo nešto što već postoji. I nismo mogli a da se ne setimo rečenice iz filma “Talentovani gospodin Ripli”, gde jedan od glumaca kaže: “… bolje je da budeš lažan neko, nego stvaran niko!” Ova rečenica je veoma moćna i dirljiva.

Razmislite o tome… Roditi se sa svim potencijalima, svim darovima, i bacati ih niz vodu… Bez da barem probate da date svom predivnom autentičnom biću priliku da se iskaže! Vidite, kopiranje nekog drugog, i uskraćivanje šanse sebi da otkrijete koji su vam talenti, ko ste vi, šta vas pomera – jednako je odbacivanju života!!!

Upozorenje: kopiranje se ne sme pomešati sa plemenitom disciplinom modelovanja, disiplinom iz koje je nastao NLP kakvog danas znamo.

Kada držim NLP seminare često naglašavam važnost iskustva, za razliku od reči. U suštini, ono što radimo na tim seminarima je da kreiramo situacije u kojima ljudi zaista iskuse NLP. A iz ovog iskustva, rađa se sposobnost. U stvari, nalazim da je razlika između reči i iskustva toliko važna da tvrdim da bi učesnici sa nekih od seminara Momentum Strategies Coaching-a bili sposobni da napišu mnogo bolju knjigu na temu ličnog razvoja, NLP, i sl. od prosečnih knjiga koje se nalaze na tržištu – ako bi jedan od naših učesnika pisao takvu knjigu ona bi bila zasnovana na njihovim iskustvima, a ne puko kopiranje.

A postoji izvestan autoritet koji nosi iskustvo. Ako pođete od nečijih reči i pretvorite ih u iskustvo, onda stvarno imate nešto vredno da pružite. To je deo koji se prečesto zaboravlja u današnjim obrazovnim sistemima, gde se nagrađuje sposobnost da se reprodukuje od reči do reči, sa ničim između sem logičkih zaključaka, čime se stvaraju ljudi koji su dobri govornici i koji prolaze kao inteligentni u mnogim krugovima.

Bez sumnje neki autori kopiranih knjiga na bilo koju temu, ali najvažnije na temu ličnog razvoja, smatraju sebe modelarima. Oni ne pozajmljuju tudje ideje, oni praktikuju modelovanje;-). Tu plemenitu disciplinu koja je iznedrila čitavo NLP polje.

Pa… ne baš… razlika je jednostavna i duboka: pre svega, modelovanje je shvatanje osnovne strukture na takav način da možete da kreirate NOVA ponašanja koja pripadaju istoj kategoriji kao i ona koju ste modelovali. I drugo, modelovanje – barem tip modelovanja koji je plemenit i koji je razultirao u stvaranju NLP-a – ide putem koji je nešto dublji od pukih verbalnih opisa, ide putem sposobnosti da se zaista reprodukuju fenomeni koji se modeluju. Bez takve sposobnosti takvi modelari su ništa do prazne priče.

Imajući ovo na umu, pozivamo vas da posvetite sledeću nedelju pronalaženju svih momenata u kojima ste odlučili da stvarate radije nego da kopirate. Zadržite se na njima i obratite pažnju na to kako se osećate. Osnaženi, inspirisani i spremni da stvarate još, kladimo se?! 🙂 Jer samo kada kreiramo, mi zaista postojimo…

Želimo vam divnu nedelju i šaljemo vam okean ljubavi,

Vaši kreativni treneri,

Lidija & Thomas

P.S. Pozivamo vas da pogledate našu Momentum NLP Serbia Facebook grupu i našu Momentum Strategies Coaching Facebook stranicu i pridružite nam se sa komentarima, iskustvima, idejama i svim drugim stvarima vezanim za NLP lični razvoj i ekspanziju!!! Mi smo tu za vas!

Lidija Markovic Rosati, NLP Trener (Certified by Dr. John Grinder, Carmen Bostic St. Clair and Michael Carroll), Holistic NLP Trener, Hipnoterapeut, Master Neurostrateg, TimeLine terapeut. Osnivač Holistic NLP centra u Nišu. Živi i radi na relaciji Velika Britanija – Srbija. www.momentum-strategies.com

Thomas Bjorge, NLP Trener (Certified by Dr. John Grinder, Carmen Bostic St. Clair and Michael Carroll), NLP Coach. Zivi i radi na relaciji Svedske, Norveske i Velike Britanije

 

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Weekly Food for Thought – To Copy and Paste or to Create and Thrive?

‘Be yourself. The world worships the original’ ~ Ingrid Bergman

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Dear Friends,

Has it ever happened to you that, out of the habit of practicing a ‘by default’ behaviour, opted to copy and paste, rather than create and thrive?

A recent consultation with a client prompted us to think about this ‘by default’ behaviour. Behaviour, where one is not encouraged to create and invent, but rather invited to copy something that already exists. And we couldn’t help but think of a line from the movie ‘The Talented Mr. Ripley’, where one of the characters states: ’…it’s better to be a fake somebody, than a real nobody!’ This sentence is very powerful and poignant.

Think about it…Being born, with all the potentials, all the gifts, and throwing them all away…Without insomuch as attempting to give your wonderful authentic self a shot at being you! You see, copying someone, and not giving yourself a chance to explore what your talents are, who you are, what makes you tick, is akin to throwing your life away!!!

Caveat: Copying is not to be confused with the noble discipline of modeling, a discipline out of which NLP we know today is born.

When we deliver seminars in NLP we often underline the importance of experience as opposed to words. Basically what we do during our seminars is to create situations where people actually experience NLP. And from this experience, competency is born. In fact we find the difference between words and experience so important that we claim that participants in one of our seminars would be able to write a much better NLP book than the average NLP book out there – if one of our participants was to write such a book it would be based on their experience, and not just a copy paste job.

And there is a certain authority that comes with personal experience. If you take someone’s words and translate them into experience, then you really have something of value to contribute. This is the part that too often gets lost in today’s educational systems, where what’s rewarded is the ability to produce words form words, with nothing but logical deduction in between. Producing people who are very good at talking in what passes as an intelligent way in many circles.

No doubt some authors of the copy paste books, on any subject, but most importantly the subject of personal development, NLP, consider themselves modelers. Heck – they’re not plagiarizing, they are practicing modeling. That noble discipline which gave birth to the entire field of NLP.

Well … no … and the difference is simple and deep: first off modeling is capturing the underlying structure in such a way that you can generate NEW behaviors that that belong to the same category as the thing you were modeling. And secondly modeling – at least the sort of modeling which is noble and resulted in NLP takes the route via something deeper than mere verbal descriptions, it takes the route via the ability to actually replicate the phenomena that one models. Without that ability such models are nothing but talk.

With this in mind, may we invite you, to dedicate next week, to digging out all those moments where you chose to create, rather than copy. Stay with them for a while, and notice how you feel. Empowered, inspired and ready for creating some more, we bet?! 🙂 As it is only when we create, that we really exist…

Your creative trainers,

Thomas and Lidija

 

Lidija Markovic– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code)

Thomas Björge– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code), NLP Coach

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The power of “why”

“One person with passion is better than forty people merely interested” E. M. Forster

Passion+for+WorkDear Friends,

Have you ever experienced a week in which you touched so many people simply by doing what you love and what you are passionate about?!

We have! And what a week we had! So much has happened…We can proudly say that ‘that was the week that was…It was a week of NLP events & talks in Nis, Serbia organized by a progressive and visionary team at the Momentum Strategies Coaching, and crowned with the most amazing Momentum NLP Diploma weekend!

There is something very special that happens when you participate in a high quality NLP course. We both remember very well our first NLP trainings many years ago… We spared no expense, and went to, at what at the time was, the best NLP training in the world – Dr. John Grinder’s in California and that of the other co-founder, Richard Bandler’s NLP training.

Since then we have sort of divided our lives into two periods: before we were exposed to highly competent NLP – training, and after.

And then, quite a few years later, when we started delivering our own trainings, one of the most gratifying feedback has been exactly this, that our own students have found the trainings to represent revolutionary milestones in their lives, resulting in deep changes of how they perceive themselves, life and other people. On that note, this weekend we delivered a Momentum NLP Diploma course in Serbia, and one of our participants put it this way: “It has opened a whole new dimension in life”… This comment, we take as a compliment, since it usually takes a practitioner course and in some cases a master practitioner course, where you learn the ground skills in NLP to get to this sort of shift.

The question we would like to explore here is what is this shift that comes with a high quality NLP training?

Sometimes a part of it is as simple as opening yourself up to a representational system which previously was not accessible to you. To understand the magnitude of such a shift, just imagine life without conscious access to one of the systems!

But there is also something else. To have a sequence of experiences which enable you to sense the underlying structure of experience. To gain a set of deep understandings as to why people act the way they do. And to acquire a set of tools to influence yourself and others to get more choice in your life.

You see, it is not always about the money – both of us have other alternative and more efficient ways of getting an affluent lifestyle that we have, and our competitive prices show that! It is more about that we are passionate about what we do, and love to make a difference that matters. Whether this difference appears in the coaching of an individual, helping that individual to find the strength to overcome career challenges, the focus to enhance artistic performance, the ability to improve athletic performance, the openness and confidence to connect with a member of the opposite sex – or whether it appears during trainings where people learn a set of skills that they can use from day one to self sufficiently take charge of their own lives, to achieve what was previously thought impossible, or to assist others in making important changes and overcoming seemingly difficult challenges whether these are in the realms of careers, relationships or other important life areas.

With this in mind, may we invite you to think about all those moments where you were inspired and did something out of passion, out of pure desire to make a difference! Stay with that sensation for a while and notice what happens…Life is never the same, once you experience the power of sharing your passion!

Wishing you a wonderful week, and sending you oceans of love,

Your passionate trainers,

Thomas and Lidija

 

Lidija Markovic– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code)

Thomas Björge– NLP Trainer, NLP Coach(Classic & New Code)

© Momentum Strategies 2013

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Would You Rather Talk About it, or Experience it ;-)?

Would You Rather Talk About it, or Experience it ;-)?

experience“Nothing ever becomes real, ‘til it is experienced!” – John Keats

Dear Friends,

Wow! What a week! We have got so much to share with you! And boy, are we glad that this coming weekend, i.e. in just under two days, we have our March (post Rhythm and NLP Amsterdam gig we’ve just participated in) workshop and are excited to share some of the new stuff!

We had an honour to spend some time with the power team: John Grinder & Carmen Bostic St. Clair, organized by our amazing Friends Catalina and Peter, another power team!!!

Yet, before we start, let us ask you something? Have you ever had the privilege to spend a week in the presence of a man who is the leader in the field he also founded, or co-founded?

If yes, you probably know what we are talking about, if not, here is the thing….

Sometimes during workshops of this kind participants opt to discuss the exercises and what has been talked about on stage, rather than to participate in them. This is rarely the best strategy for learning. And especially not so when it comes to a field of experience like NLP.

During this week’s event it was such a pleasure to witness that people actually went for the experience. They did the exercises and experienced the results. And with experience comes the sort of understanding that is truly worth having. Which in essence sums up what the New Code NLP is all about.

There is a classic experiment by Gazzaniga (you can find it on youtube). The subject is a man whose brain has been divided into two. The word “bell” is shown to his right brain. The word “music” to his left brain. When asked to select one out of four pictures, depicting various musical instruments and a bell, he chooses the bell. He is asked why he chose the bell, and his left hemisphere comes up with a totally irrelevant explanation. An explanation it firmly believes in.

The scary thing is that he sounds pretty much like anyone does when they explain why they did one thing as opposed to another. This is the nature of the left hemisphere – to provide explanations. Sometimes these explanations have something to do with reality, but if they don’t, it doesn’t really matter to the left hemisphere. It will be just as convinced by its own reasoning whether it is correct or not.

This is what talking and chatting often is like – providing comparisons or explanations based on past understandings, no matter if these past understandings are correct or relevant. In the context of an NLP seminar this often wastes fantastic opportunities for discovery and change into useless rationalizations and misinformed chatter. NLP, if presented by competent trainers, will inevitably present things, which exist outside that which is previously understood.

With this in mind, we would like to invite you to opt for the experience rather than just thinking about it, or talking to yourself about it.

Here is an exercise that can help you move in that direction.

During the day, make certain to have a rich sensory experience. Perhaps taking a shower, walking on dry leaves, etc.. As you take the shower describe in sensory specific language what you are experiencing. No evaluation, no interpretation. Just raw experience!

No words like “beautiful”, “sensual”, “cleansing”. But more like this: The wetness of the thousands of drops of water as they burst open while reaching the skin, or something along those lines… The same goes for walking on dry leaves…

Enjoy your experiences, and leave talking for later;-)!

As always wishing you a wonderful week and sending you oceans of love,

Your talkative and experienced trainers

Lidija and Thomas

P.S. Next  weekend, April 5-7, we offer a rather unique opportunity. We will be delivering a superconcentrated workshop in NLP – Momentum NLP Diploma. Two and a half days of learnings and experiences you can transform your life with. Welcome to our world!

Lidija Markovic– NLP Trainer (Classic & New Code)

Thomas Björge– NLP Trainer, NLP Coach(Classic & New Code)

Copyright © Momentum Strategies 2013

 

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MOMENTUM NLP DIPLOMA

***NOVO U HOLISTICKOM NLP CENTRU U NISU***

MOMENTUM NLP DIPLOMA – 5-7.4.2013

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Subota 6. april od 10h – 18h

Nedelja 7. april od 10h-18h

NLP diploma je intenzivni (u trajanju od dva i po dana) uvod u Neurolingvisticko programiranje – NLP.

Cena ovog vikend treninga je 150eur!

NLP je u svom začetku krenuo kao modelovanje superiornih izvodjača, genija u odredjenim poljima, i uspeo da učini da veštine ovih genija budu dostupne svima. Pruža vam se šansa da dobijete pristup nekim od ovih modela i naučite ih.

Kao rezultat pohadjanja NLP Diploma obuke vi ćete:

● Naučiti kako da vodite druge kroz proces promene i kako da im pomognete da postignu cilj
● Naučiti snažne NLP jezičke modele preciznosti i efektivnosti
● Naučiti kako da lakše postignete sopstvene ciljeve

Trening je iskustvene i interaktivne prirode. Ova dva elementa su neophodna za ubrzano učenje.

Naučićete:
● Kako da lakše ostvarite komunikaciju sa drugima, tzv. Rapport .
● Jednostavne, a snažne metode samo-hipnoze, koje možete koristiti da programirate sebe.
● Veštine preciznog posmatranja (kalibracija) i čulne izoštrenosti – kada koristite NLP metode, kalibracija i čulna izoštrenost su neophodni da biste bili sigurni da metode imaju očekivane rezultate.
● Obrasce očiju (pogleda) – kako da otkrijete u kom tipu procesa se osoba nalazi.
● Reprezentativni sistem – različite načine razmišljanja i efekte koji oni imaju.
● Rečnik preciznosti i specifičnosti – tehnike koje će učiniti da vaši razgovori budu o bitnim temama, da vam pitanja imaju lasersku preciznost i izvuku potrebnu informaciju i tehnike koje će obezbediti kvalitet komunikacije.
● Promenu sadašnjeg stanja u željeno stanje.
● Promenu sadašnje situacije u željenu situaciju.
● Kako da vidite situacije onako kako ih drugi vide.
● Kako da vidite sopstvena iskustva okom posmatrača, a ne kao neko ko je zarobljen u njima; kako da transformišete iskustva putem ulaženja u stanje visoke efikasnosti.
● Šta je to što čini razliku vezano za ličnu promenu i progres – ovo je nešto što je često izostavljeno u prosečnim NLP obukama.

Po završetku kursa, učesnici će dobiti Momentum Strategies NLP Diploma sertifikat.

Ovaj kurs je moguće pohadjati izdvojeno od ostalih. Ako želite da nastavite obuku sa nama, cena ovog kursa će biti odbijena od cene treninga za NLP Praktičara ili Mastera.

Za nas – koji konstantno sebe usavršavamo kroz praćenje najnovijih dešavanja iz polja NLP, neuronauka i coaching-a, NLP Diploma trening seminar predstavlja priliku da podelimo neka od ovih znanja sa našim učenicima.

ZAMISLITE KOLIKO ĆE VAM OVAJ KURS KORISTITI
AKO STE ZAINTERESOVANI ZA

● Lični razvoj
● Menadžment
● Coaching
● Rešavanje sukoba
● HR
● Trening/Sport
● Veštine prezentacije
● Poboljšanje odnosa
● Promenu posla

Za više informacija kontaktirajte Lidiju:
lidija@momentum-strategies.com ili 064 38 55 255

Treninge vode:

Lidija Marković Rosati, Internacionalni NLP Trener (Grinder, Bostic St.Clair, Carroll – Klasični i Novi Kod), Energetski NLP Trener
Thomas Björge, Internacionalni NLP Trener (Grinder, Bostic St.Clair, Carroll – Klasični i Novi Kod).

Thomas i Lidija su akreditovani članovi Medjunarodne Akademije Trenera, a NLP treninge su pohadjali i učili od ko-osnivača NLP – Dr. John-a Grinder-a.

 

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